I’m not sure if this is the right forum to post this in. :o
Anyways, my girlfriend of about eight months is an actress. Last year she shot a film where she was involved in an explicit sex scene. I knew there was intimate touching and kissing to be done, but what I did not know that the sex scene she’d be doing would require her to be topless. I thought it would be a pan away type of thing once the groping and kissing starts.
My feelings about this are mixed. Part of me is upset and disappointed - we have not seen each other naked and the fact that she allowed another guy to be that intimate with her, let alone see her chest in that manner just breaks my heart. I’m her boyfriend and never “got that far” with her (I know, I’m a loser). I feel like a fool; a small mouse. Here’s a guy she she barely even knew getting to kiss her and take her bra off for sake of art and story telling. And here am I … She did say the scene was pivotal to the story and was artfully done. That does little to ease the hurt and disappointment. I’m not sure if I’m even going to see the movie, but I want to in order to support her. The other part of me tells me to take it like a man and apply the “it’s art” reasoning and the “if you don’t like it look away.” Of course knowing that others want to see her naked is also disturbing (IMDb is one bizarre place). They’re practically rejoicing.
I know that I am not in a place to tell her what scripts and what scenes to do and not do, since she is in charge of her career, and that in the future there’s a good chance that she might accept a role where she’s doing another explicit scene (that’s pivotal and tastefully done) that it’s something I must get over.
I’m just feeling a bit lost right now. I know I must respect her decisions as an actress.
I need to drink some Jack on the Rocks.