Allow me to ask an odd question. First a slight amount of background.
When I was young, I was a political more or less liberal, but always a “live and let live” social conservative. As I’ve grown older, however, I’ve become more conservative in every way. I’m particularly considerably more conservative, I guess, regarding personal morality and responsibility.
Anyhow, I’m also (unfortunately) a lawyer practicing principally in civil litigation. I have a case against an early middle aged female opponent who recently very openly gave birth with no spouse. I don’t really know the details, but I know that she knows the father and all, and I am more than willing to give her credit for doing the right thing after getting pregnant and having the baby.
My problem is that suddenly the baby is coming into my case in an odd way. I keep hearing complaints made to the court about how much money she spent flying, rather than driving, to a deposition, that she, not I, noticed. I know the reason she did this is that she couldn’t find day care for the day, but I’m tired of hearing that I’m a bad guy because she spent so much money to get to her own deposition. I fear these sort of complaints are going to get worse as I know that she has to make all sorts of allowances and exceptions to get day care, including having family members fly out from out of state.
For the past 20 years I’ve sacrificed piles of family time, haven’t had a vacation in a fifteen years, etc., and never chosen to blame it all on opposing counsel. I’m beginning to resent this, and sort of feel like noting that if raising a single child is too much of burden for a traveling litigator, she should look for other options.
Probably me just being insensitive and grouchy, right?