So I’ve been a lurker here for a while, but just made an account to ask a question that resulted from an odd experience I had recently.
I have been married for three years, and we recently were talking with a couple of friends about when we were going to start having kids. Well, the thing is, we’re not trying to avoid having kids, but we’re not really trying to either. Not going into any serious medical history with strangers on the internet, there may be some evidence that my wife may have difficulty in conceiving, but we’ve never really spent the time and money to really get any official diagnosis. In general, we’re both just happy taking whatever comes and accepting whatever doesn’t.
So that brings us to the main question. Our friends (who don’t know our complete medical histories) were kind of shocked at our nonchalant attitude towards the whole thing. When asked, we both sort of shrugged our shoulders. They figured that by this point we should be tracking down every available resource to maximize chances of getting pregnant – we’re not getting any younger, you know. We’re both willing to accept the children God gives us, but neither of us really have any sort of strong desire to become parents. Every so often, we note that because we don’t have children, we can afford to do something – like go out to a fancy dinner or on a weekend getaway (our stories of a recent adventure is what brought up the topic in the first place). Our one friend made a bit of a faux pas when he suggested that we were somehow defective because of our attitude towards the situation. (We did our best to laugh it off).
So what say you, random internet people, is there something wrong with us that we’re not worried about the lack of children in our marriage?