I don't know my sponsor except for what she revealed about herself when communicating with other people in RCIA (not to me specifically, as I'm almost freakishly introverted and I didn't talk much in class :p). When I was becoming Catholic, I knew of other Catholics in my area, but none very well, so a sponsor was assigned from the "team" (maybe this is unique to my parish, so if the term is unclear, the "team" consists of Catholic adults who sit in on many or most of the classes and occasionally add their perspective). We were supposed to meet for coffee and talk sometime but we never did. We saw one another occasionally at class, and she went with me through two or three public rituals that converts in this parish go through, and this is the extent of our connection. She did not appear to know very much about Catholicism, and said she was in the class to learn along with the other students (I'm not trying to put her down, she seemed very sweet, funny and encouraging, and had been through a lot).
At the time, I just wanted to get through RCIA so that I could be Catholic. I would have liked to get to know my sponsor, I wasn't averse to it, but I wasn't worried about a lack of connection either; I just assumed it wasn't meant to be. But I feel like I have to do everything alone and don't know who to talk to; I have information but its hard to apply knowledge to living. I try to do what seems "Catholic" but often I wish that it were possible to live in some kind of professional Catholic commune just to see how to do things.
Is this something that a sponsor might reasonably be expected to help with, or would that be more the role of a godparent (I was baptized Reformed-ish, no godparents)? Or is this an ongoing situation that would be more appropriately brought to a priest or spiritual director? I read things online that suggest that a sponsor plays a spiritual role in the sponsored person's life well beyond Confirmation, but in RCIA we were told that it was more of a formality, we needed a sponsor to stand with us in front of the church. So I am confused.