It is an uphill battle. But, you just be yourself, pray that others will see you the way God sees you, and especially pray for the person who has been spreading negative gossip.
What causes that?
A person who will do this is not worth investing your energy. Pray for her, but realize that, if she did talk to you, it is most likely she would use anything you say against you by gossiping. You are better off not interacting with such people.
Good for you, for reaching out, but now it has been confirmed to you that this is not where your energy should be invested. IT is her loss, because you are someone who is sensitive to others, and she has missed a good potential friend.
No, but it is important that you listen to what your “senses” are telling you. When a person spurns you like this, there is usually a very good reason. It is likely you are being spared much grief. A person who is not willing to accept you for yourself and is swayed so much by the negative opinions of others is too shallow for your investment in a relationship.
Absolutely, but you should also pray for her, and for whoever it is that is spewing negativity that has poisoned the possibility.
Certainly NOT!! It is not a good investment of your time and energy. Be Christ to her, as you may be the only Christ she has ever encountered, but you have no need to “prove” anything.
I wish this were true, but about half the population never grows beyond adolescence, and continue to engage in adolescent behavior throughout their lives. It is sufficient that you have gone beyond this.