*Exactly. Nothing wrong with looking good...staying in shape...buying girly things ;) lol But when that is all you have going for yourself, it's not good. And the thing about the example you give, when they are say 60...and looks are fading, they will be scared out of their minds. They will have nothing else ''there.''
My sister, a very attractive woman...(we grew up in a family whereby adults talked about the importance of women being beautiful and dumbing themselves down for men :rolleyes:) but she is in her 50's now, looks younger yes...but still. No matter what she does, she's not going to be 30 again. She has a very hard time coping with that, because of how we were brought up--looks for a woman is her ticket in life, basically. She didn't go to college, she married right out of high school...nothing wrong with that, but I think if our parents had instilled other values in her like pursuing an education, etc..she would have not jumped into a marriage right out of high school. She is now divorced, and dates the worst kinds of men ....users, a married guy at one time, guys who want one thing, etc and on and on. She is obsessed with her looks, spending oodles of time in the gym...and buying the latest sexiest shoe or skirt. I love her, but it is just sad to watch. The imagery out in the media propels it. She basically says...''I'm competing with 30 yr olds.'' Um, if you are dating men in their 50's who are looking for someone who is 30 or under...that right there is part of your problem, I tell her. :blush: Becoming obsessed with one's appearance, can cause that person to be obsessive about others' appearances, too. She won't date someone 60...oh, he has wrinkles or this or that. Or a pot belly, bla bla...I work hard at staying in shape, I want a guy to do the same. Then, don't complain when you meet a shallow man. :cool: I don't know if that is a south florida thing (maybe) or just the signs of our times, as this article portrays.
Again, nice to be paid a compliment on looks, but as you say liza...it's the content of character that matters most. :thumbsup:*