I married my Catholic wife in 2006, and converted to Catholicism myself (from Lutheranism) in 2008. My conversion was not some compromise measure to appease my wife, but rather through a true affection for the Church, her teachings, and traditions. I believe it is indeed the ONE, HOLY, CATHOLIC, and APOSTOLIC Church, yet I continue to love unconditionally those members of my family who practice Lutheranism, and respect their call to do so.
Recently, my "cradle" Catholic wife - with whom we have a 2 year old daughter - surprised me with an alarming revelation: she said that were it not for my devotion to Catholicism, that she would be happy to leave the Church for some other denomination, or any "church" she considered more "welcoming" or "family friendly". She cited our parish priest's aloofness and uninspiring preaching abilities (admittedly, he is rather dry) as well as a congregation comprised mainly of senior citizens. I'm also afraid that she may be becoming influenced by our environment: we live in the South, and many of our friends are evangelical Protestants, whose churches always seem to be having some sort of "exciting" new faith endeavor like revivals, family festivals, "praise bands", etc. She's beginning to think that time has passed the Church by - maybe she's bored, I don't know.
I've tried to remind her that the Church is more than a single priest or personality, and that the Mass is not intended to be a motivational seminar. Our Sacraments and Traditions are thousands of years old, and should not simply be disregarded as trivial to be substituted for whatever is popular. All of this seems to ring hollow with her, and she always replies with "you're just old fashioned" or "I'm just not being spiritually nourished at church anymore". I'm sure this is not an uncommon sentiment shared by others who may have left the Church. I don't want her to lose her Faith, and I certainly don't want her frustration with the Church influencing how our daughter views her Faith. Yet I also don't want to appear to be a hardline "fundamentalist" Catholic who refuses to allow her to seek out that spiritual fulfillment which I think she is looking for, or somehow compromise our marriage. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I handle this?