I just had an argument, and the only thing I now have is a headache.
I went out and a lady drove me home. The more I get to know this lady, the more I sense we are on different wavelenghts. I try not to judge and respect her opinion. After all, she drives me home for which I am very grateful. But sometimes I get annoyed with how she complains about silly things.
I also know, she is a Catholic who quit going to church when all the sex scandals came out. She told me herself she became disillusioned. I never quite understood how one could get disillusioned unless they never really had the gift of faith.
Well, tonight on the way home, she started complaining about all the Muslem (sp?) immigrants are being let into Canada and saying that in 10 years, women will no longer have any rights because of them. Well… I did not like her complaining. I also took offense because I work with a few Muslems that are actully nice guys and I consider have gone from co-workers to friends. Just because we have different religious beliefs is no reason for me to not be their friend.
Well… this lady kept saying that Muslems were going to put Canadian women back into the home. When I asked her how she though they would do that she replied ‘They all have 14 kids when Canadians only have 2. Within a generation they will outnumber us’.
Well that was the last straw. I said ‘If Catholics are going to choose to use contraceptives, then they don’t have the right to complain if Muslems have 14 kids’. Well this just opened up a 2 hour discussion about papal infaillibility to contraceptive to everrthing.
The only conclusion I can make is when someone’s mind is made up to reject the church teachings, there is no changing it and all I can do is pray to accept others.
Also, everytime I tried to say the Pope is only infaillable when he guides the teachings of the church and it doesn’t change the fact that the Pope is a sinner and could turn around and sin, she told me I was naive and that I was disproving my whole argument. She just did not see it the way I do, which I am more than willing to accept, I just resent she was not willing to respect my opinion.
And then she started telling me ‘What if you follow all the teachings of the church and when you die you find out there is no Heaven’ Well, how can I argue with something that I believe fundamentally makes no sense??? Then she started asking me where hell was. I don’t care where hell is, all I care is making it to heaven.
Then she started telling me that children born to single mom’s on assistance can not be happy. To which I kept saying ‘I can not judge that and why criticize a child who had no control over where he was born’ and that just made her mad at me.
The long and short of it is, both of our minds were made up and we weren’t going to budge. I just wished I never had this discussion.
I am not even sure I know what I am looking for here. Any comments are appreciated