It’s very sad anytime a marriage ends in divorce, especially when children are involved. It’s a tragedy for the entire family and I’m not here to make jugments about the way someone else chooses to live their life.
However, I am disturbed when influential “self-help gurus” - who have an impact on hundreds of thousands of people - offer relationship and marriage advice that I think could influence people to make very poor decisions. I feel compelled to say something about such advice.
I can’t help but be extremely troubled by this hugely popular (apparently over 1 million readers) online advice columnist’s reaction to (and explanation of) his divorce. This is someone who brands himself as the source of “personal development for smart people.”
Again, I recognize that everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. Such imperfections don’t make someone unworthy of offering helpful advice. My problem is how this guy reacts to and then explains the reasonings for his divorce. Due to the nature of his site, he’s obviously sharing this reaction and explanation in an effort to advise others on their relationships.
Here’s the article: LINK
What I find very scary is that thousands and thousands of people rely on this “self-help guru” for advice on what it takes to live a successful life – including in the area of relationships and family life.
Is this really what is passing for mainstream relationship, marriage, and family advice these days? “Open” marriages? Putting one’s own ideological (read: delusional) idea of ultimate utopian happiness above any and every other interest? Being smugly thankful that you and your kids live in a city where divorce is so common and that you feel “welcomed” into the club of divorcees?
I’m sorry but this is exactly what I think is wrong with a lot of the self-help industry.
Am I overreacting here?