I quite agree with Rayne89’s postion in this matter.
The woman’s right of choice in the matter of sex in the union of marriage has from ancient times always been been regarded as an impregnagble truth(though unfortunately not yet a dogma). The first of all examples, of a good marriage in the state of celibacy, comes from the Holy Family, where it is taught to us that Mary, before her marriage to Josef, at the Temple took a vow of perpetual chastity, which according to the Law could have been disannulled by her choice of spouse, namely Joseph. Except that he chose instead to honour her vow,and did not ever “know” Mary, in the biblical sense of the term.Tradition says that this relationship remained celibate until its end, with the death of Josef, and tradition also relates that Mary remained chaste and did not re-marry, and died not “knowing” any man.
In more recent times, the courts of the church have always upheld a christian(insert catholic if this comforts your tender sensibilities of distinction) woman’s Right to choose, in the matter of aggreement to the marriage contract, and within the contract the right to refuse the act of sex for reasons of perversity, or scandal, health reasons, pregnancy, fear(yes, fear!), prostitution or any purpose of solicitation for the purpose of personal profit, pre-marital vows, which if entered into on the part of the woman before the marriage contract, must be declared before the genesis of the contract, to the male spouse and vice versa, or the contract of marriage de facto is invalid, and etc, etc, etc.
A woman’s right to choose was actually started by the Roman Catholic Church , and however imperfectly it has been upheld, yet it has been upheld.
And a woman’s right to refuse her husband of the sexual act is historically and presently a matter of public record.
I have not ever read in Hebrew scripture, nor in the writings found in Catholicism nor among the Orthodox brethren and sisters, of a woman being somehow obliged to do the sexual act.
…And don’t waste my time with the usual tediousness of the quotes from Deuteronomy, John, and Paul, okay?They imply no such thing, in my opinion. NO SUCH THING IS IMPLIED!