I keep seeing this running theme in peoples lives. They get angry about their job, yet stay with it and are miserable, they get angry with their spouse, they get angry with their children, they get angry with their friends and relatives, they get angry at everything and anything and are all together too quick to get that way.
Let’s look at it though, honestly, can you think of a single instance where being angry and acting upon it has benefited you in any way? How about when you have to deal with someone who is angry, does reciprocating their actions benefit them? Can God work with you if you are angry? An angry mind distorts reality itself, it drains your energy, it only makes you less effective with everything that you do, so why is it that people give into it so easily?
I’ve been subjected to angry parties in the past, I’ve watched them tear apart everything they have built up and observing this, seeing they are literally being controlled by their anger. Why on earth would one allow this simple emotion to totally override all common sense? If you lack self control in this area, it’s in my opinion lack of maturity, for we all know that as children, we are subject to our emotions, that as adults we are supposed to temper them with reason, yet too often people throw that out the window and in too many cases, simply breaking down what is making you angry, reacting logically to it, you can no longer be angry any more. If you are true to yourself, you will take note of each time you have observed your actions taken while in an angry state in all cases work against yourself, that if you are angry, you are actually angry with yourself and a house divided cannot stand.
If you are subjected to someone that cannot control their anger, the first thing to understand is not to get caught up into their trap when they try to vent or get you to reciprocate, take a step back, remain calm, show indifference at best emotionally and you will find these outside parties burning themselves out upon it, you also will diffuse the situation entirely because it no longer affects you and you behaving like an adult will drive them kind of crazy, for their are acting like children. They say misery loves company, with an angry person, nothing can be closer to the truth. In my own life I’ve had to deal with people that could not control their anger, I’ve watched them throw away business ventures in an instant, I’ve watched them tear apart their families and cause scars that last forever, and I’ve seen them cause serious automobile accidents, I’ve seen them completely seperating themselves from God’s grace itself. Why on earth would one not learn from these experiences is beyond me.
If you are having problems dealing with your anger, it’s time to stop and figure out exactly why you are angry, be honest with yourself, you will find that there is no logical reason for it, that you can decide to be in control, or let it be in control over you.