Hello. I am having a problem that I think a good deal many other people have. I have a problem with anger. I was raised in a family whereby my Father was an angry and at times very arrogant person. In part I think I have inherited this personally problem from him, and I think it was exacerbated by the way I was treated growing up. I don’t think that I was abused physically, although there are times now that make me wonder a wee bit. I was abused I think more emotionally than anything else. Don’t take it the wrong way, my Father did not beat me, he told me he loved me, went to my sporting events, took me fishing and what not. He always provided what ever the family needed. However he could never admit he was wrong. I seem to have inherited this also. I have come to the point afterwork that I can admit that I am wrong, but it takes me awhile.
Recently I had an incedent whereby my wife and other people in my family think that I need to seek anger management classes. I have voluntarily gone to counseling with my Preist. However this does not seem to be good enough for my family. They are insisting that I take some kind of secular special classes. This makes me nervouse. I do not want to open my life open to just anybody. A person has to earn my trust to do this. My Preist is a great confessor. He is open, honest and to the point. he does not beat around the bushes and is not afraid to tell me what I need to change. He is also very compassionate. My sessions are always done under the cloak of sacramental confession. I can pour my heart out to him and I trust him. I do not want to go to anykind of secular anger management classes. I would rather continue my counseling with him. He has agreed to meet with me every week for as long as I need to get a handle on this problem.
I know that my family will push me to take these other classes. It angers me to think about this to be honest. I should also add that I am unemployed at the moment, although I may be obtaining a job soon, as I have an interview tomorrow. My point is that I have so much going on in my life now in dealing with being unemployed and trying to find a new job and trying to get a handle on this problem and going to one counseling session, that I feel that pushing me more to go to other classes is to much for me to deal with at this point. I am having a hard enough time admitting that I have a problem, much less taking care of it. Admitting that I have a problem…that is hard for me. I am admitting it, but as a sign of personal weakness this is hard.
As a way to educate myself I have down loaded more than 20 lectures on anger off the net that I have listened to as I work at my part time job. I am also reading up on what anger can do to people and how to control it.
Anyhow I have more to write but this posting is long as it is so I will end it now. Do you think I should take the secular classed or not?