More so for conversation and thought, perhaps someone can help me understand this better:
How I understand Marriage is that it is a covenant made between Man, Woman, and God. After marriage the bond is set, and as is said: let no man separate. How I understand annulments to work is that the Church declares that some part of the vows or covenant was entered into with error and therefore making it an invalid marriage which never took place in the first place. Hmm… Sounds to me a lot like Once Saved Always Saved mentality whereas if someone sins after they were “saved” then they weren’t saved to begin with. If that’s the case, how do we know that any of our marriages are indeed valid? In theory, we could full and well enter into marriage validly but if our spouse decides down the road that they didn’t think marriage was forever, now all of a sudden it’s an invalid marriage and it can be annulled? I’m trying to wrap my head around this. Either a marriage is forever or it isn’t. How does the Church know what is in a spouse’s heart at the time the covenant is made? Why is the Church involved if they are not part of the Covenant? The priest we had in marriage prep classes even declares that he administers the Sacrament; the priest (Church) is not marrying the couple. The couple are making vows to themselves and with God. I just don’t see how an Annulment could ever be possible and why the Church allows for it or is the one overseeing it. Could someone please help me understand this better. Where am I going wrong? Not meaning to judge, but I’ve had friends who had been married for twenty plus years have their marriage annulled. You would think that at some point “Common Law Marriage” would take precedent and an annulment could no longer be instituted. But since there’s no trial period in marriage, I guess where do you draw the line?