I was married at age 19…after taking instruction into the Catholic faith. I was also pregnant with my son. During the marriage we also had a daughter. We divorced after almost 10 years of marriage.
The divorce took place 35 years ago. I am very close to the entire family, as well as my ex-husband, and am blessed that love and forgiveness were present, and exist to this very day.
I understand that I must go through the annulment process to be “a Catholic in good standing.” However, I can’t imagine having people I love be witnesses, and create that hurt all over again. In addition, I have been married to someone for 23 years, who also went through divorce. My husband also has had a stroke.
I am currently in my 3rd year of Lay Ministry, and knew that I must have my previous marriage annulled. However, marriages would further hurt the people that were most affected all those years ago. I am struggling with this daily, since when I read the actual way that by definition the church defines it…it seems contrary to love, mercy, understanding, and forgiveness that has already been given by God. Seeking discernment!