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Jesus Christ established the Catholic Church, which will teach the Truth throughout the ages until the end of the world. However, among its members there were, are, and always will be abuses and scandals of all sorts---scandals within the laity, scandals within religious orders, and scandals within the clergy. After all, Christ Himself said that scandals were bound to come, but "woe to the person through whom scandal comes..."
But our Holy Father, Pope Benedict himself has decried what he perceives as a growing number of easily-received annulments. And Pope John Paul II, back in 1987, spoke of “the scandal of seeing the value of Christian marriage destroyed in practice by the exaggerated and almost automatic multiplication of declarations of nullity.”
So are this just another scandal in the Church? I suppose the people who are granted false annulments are not to be held responsible.
I wonder; if Henry VIII filed for an annulment today, do you think he could find a marriage tribunal somewhere that would grant it? After all, some of the reasons given these days to rationalize an annulment seem far fetched. Maybe we're just living in the age of the great apostasy.
From what I understand, there are a number of things that would render a marriage null. these, from what I understand, are:
*1- Refusal or inability to consummate the marriage (inability or refusal to have sex) ,
2- Bigamy, incest (being married to someone else, or close relatives)
3- Duress (being forced or coerced into marriage against one's will or serious external pressure, for example a pregnancy)
4- Mental incapacity (considered unable to understand the nature and expectations of marriage)
5- Lack of knowledge or understanding of the full implications of marriage as a life-long commitment in faithfulness and love, with priority to spouse and children.
6- Psychological inability to live the marriage commitment as described above.
7- Illegal "Form of Marriage" (ceremony was not performed according to Catholic canon law)
8- One/both partners was under the influence of drugs, or addicted to a chemical substance at the time of marriage. *
But maybe we just live in such worldly and times with so many divisions within Christianity itself that a great number of marriages are truly indeed invalid. This is easy to imagine, especially these days of Las Vegas Drive-By wedding cerimonies. What I find harder to understand is when I hear about couples who've been married for 19 years and produced 8 children are granted an annulment. I suppose we have to trust the marriage tribunals. But then again, why would two popes decry the dissolution of marriages by* "exaggerated and almost automatic multiplication of declarations of nullity.”* ?
I suppose the guilty parties know who they are.
Well gee, let's just imagine a young Catholic woman who goes into marriage with what she thinks is a good understanding. . .for keeps, better or worse. . .
And she has children right away, so the first 10 years or so she is trying to raise 4 or 5 children and deal with a spouse who maybe (let's give him his due) tries to make the marriage work to the best of his understanding of what marriage is, but because he was really spoiled, selfish, and immature, even though again he has good qualities just as everybody does. . . well, he starts wanting to 'have his cake and eat it too.' He wants not just a wife but a slave. . .he wants to 'slob out' but she (on top of being the perfect wife, not working 'outside the home' so her skills and experience get daily more obsolete, has to be the perfect mother, fixing home cooked meals, doing all the 'domestic work' etc., with an 'allowance' doled out to her at the husband's whim) has to maintain the same 25 year old body, fashion etc. as though she were still unmarried and dating). . .and he gets more and more demanding, and of course she 'fails' on every count, starts getting verbally abused, and she 'takes it' because marriage is for keeps, right? She tries not to malign the dad to the kids but they see and they start to take sides and they start fighting with each other and acting out at school. They all go out less and less because every outing ends in fights, tears, and tantrums. . .and when they stay inside it's nothing but fights, tears, and tantrums. . .and now the kids are teens, and the husband decrees' now you go out and work and now you pay everything, no more allowance for you'. . .she takes what jobs she can, but she's constantly being called out because somebody gets in trouble at school, HUSBAND can't be bothered, and so she's let go again. .and this time husband slaps her for being a 'lazy beeyatch' and announces that THIS is why he's been shacking up with his coworker for the last 4 years, and why he's going to dump her and finally have a happy life. . .and so, after 18 years of marriage she finally, for her own physical safety as well as the welfare of her children, because the oldest boy has threatened if dad slaps her again he'll kill him. . .she finally files for divorce.
Do you think that that MIGHT explain why after 'many years and several children' a woman (or a man, because men get abused too) can file for a decree of nullity?
That people can go on for sometimes quite a long time (so long as they get what they want and are happy) and when they don't get what they want, they turn into monsters, based on the fact that they had BEEN this way whenever they didn't get what they wanted all their lives long and thought they were entitled to have not just perfection, but a totally unrealistic fantasy? Their whole idea of marriage was a fantasy?
And that an abused person can go on for quite a long time trying to justify herself and 'make it work' because she's been made to feel it's her fault, and that 'she made the vows for keeps'?