I was born and raised Catholic, single, age 35, never been married, no kids.
I attend singles functions, I live in the south, and attend singles functions, most (might as well be ALL) of which are protestant non-denomionationl OR even “former-Catholics”.
I attend this 20-to 35 Christian Singles Group that goes out and does fun stuff together.
Got to talking to this nice girl, she is divorced, not annulled of course, she’s currently a practicing non-denonimnational Protestant.
I did a little digging from her, and found out she was Catholic.
Personally, I don’t let NON-annulled women stop me from dating them, that’s just me. As long as they are divorced, that’s all that matters.
But the thing is, protestants and alot of your non-denominationals have NO quams dating, re-marrying, without any kind of official permission from the Catholic church saying, “Hey, you’re allowed to date others now.”
I even knew a well known church going woman at my parrish, was active in the parrish, met a man, he was a Christian, but Penecostal. She wanted to get married to him…long story short…she found out a few stipulations from the church that she had to follow, and refused to follow them.
They leave their parrish and the Catholic faith, and attend the husbands church, arranges a marriage by the pastor of that church with no issues or stipulations to follow, and married them…and are now living happily ever after.
I am wondering how many single people out there LEAVE the Catholic faith, because “Well, I’m divorced, that’s enough…and (pardon me if this sounds blasphemous)…annulments are just a ‘Catholic thing’”
Basically, any thing exclusive to only one religion, can’t be taken to heart or even legit. This is the current mentality, and yes, there are things that the Catholic church stipulates that others do not.
Like the whole “okay, we’ve had 4 kids, let’s stop at number 4, and start taking the pill or using some kind of BC.”
I would imagine Catholic families have said “You’ve gotta be kidding me, I have to continue to have children, or be open to having more children” (There’s this issue of 'breeding yourself into poverty" as well, but that’s another post, lol)
Then, they find out their non-denominational neighbors can do this and do that, without any fear of any kind of “damnation” of ones soul. Because, if you start seeing other people when you’re not annulled, it’s okay…why? Because your non-denoninational…yay!!"
I"ve met FORMER Catholics at singles groups that said, " Yeah, I joined this church, because I did not go for the whole “Birth Control” thing.
The woman that heads off our Singles Group, apparently is Catholic attends Catholic church, BUT does attend other non-Catholic venues as well, because her current Catholic venue does not please her. Alot of families, and no one single or socialable. So I’m witnessed to a Catholic that is going a bit “astray”.
It’s a bit of a quandry I tell you.
“Hey, by the way, you can’t date her, she’s not annulled”
“But, she’s a Baptist, does that count?”