As I posted earlier, I am volunteering on a professional committee to improve my resume to help get a job. There is this one lady I work with on a sub-committee that is toxic and emotionally I no longer can afford to be around her. So the chair has agreed that I give up that sub-committee and do other tasks. He understands she is hard to work with
So I emailed her and told her I would be stepping down from those duties. I basically said I was not getting any training of value, not being copied in on emails and a lot of time was wasted to do little amounts of work (ie the politically correct way of saying all she does is talk about irrelevant things)
She came back saying she did not know what I was talking about since we only had 2 meetings and casual conversations. The truth is, I can only remember one meeting for the sub-committee and seeing her at general meetings and trying to talk to her to get straight answers and she went on tangents and I never got anything answered
Then, she said gave a reason for not sending any emails but her grammar was so poor I have no idea what she meant. And then she said ‘this is a hard sub committee because we never get answers to our email’ :banghead: look who is calling the kettle black :rolleyes:
So I emailed her back and repeated that I was sorry for any inconvenience I had caused her and said that I needed to repeat any attempts I made to streamline the process was not well received and I can not work in disorganization. I then said ‘the reason I was to help you was to learn the position to take over next year. Since I am receiving no training of value there is no point staying on. You can still hand it to someone next year and I am open to taking it and starting from scratch’
I do NOT know how to proceed from here. I do NOT want to get into an argument over how the work is done for 2 reasons
1-) If I point out what I want to be done differently, I fear it will turn into a 45 minute argument where she gets defensive
2-) If we solve the work issues, then I will be forced to admit the real reason is she is toxic.
How should I proceed from here?