You get used to it after a while. I’m at a more “traditional” parish. We use the communion rail. (It’s awesome!) I had started to wear a mantilla (black, and I’m single, dunno if you consider 40 “young” tho’… I just happen to prefer black clothes - old “goth” girl that I am, hehehe) and I was self conscious, even though there are several other women who wear mantillas.
Funny thing tho’… this past Sunday I ended up a life teen Mass at a more “modern” parish. For the first time since starting to wear one (about a month and a half ago) I felt comfortable and was not conscientious or feeling “holier than thou”. After Mass I realized I was the only one wearing a mantilla. I got some looks, and one woman seemed eager to shake my hand during the sign of peace, almost as if she wanted to see who it was.
I find it amusing that I was feeling self conscious at my own parish which has women wearing mantillas, but when I finally didn’t feel self conscious, I was the only one wearing one! :whacky:
You get used to it. I don’t know the rules, if there are any, as far as colours go or when to cover up. I just remember my grandmother (who ALWAYS wore one up until her death in the early 90’s) would put it on right before she entered the church (there was a small vestibule area and it’d be on her head by the time she got into the “church” area past the vestibule) and take it off when she got outside. So… following her lead, that’s what I do.
I have a relatively long one and I’m learning to wear it so that it doesn’t slip and slide. I will adjust it periodically during the Mass. I almost gave up because I found myself so distracted from adjusting and worried that it would fall off. I’d use a head band but I get head aches easily, and I’d use a hair clip or bobby pins but I’m losing my hair so those don’t stay on. I’ve learned to wear it and adjust it at my shoulders so the weight of it (it’s light, tho’) helps to keep it down a bit. But like I said I’m learning to wear it that it doesn’t move as much. Maybe I’m just keeping my head still. LOL