I am the only practicing Catholic in my family. My youngest brother is the only one that officially has joined a Protestant religion. The rest of my siblings, including my father, just never go to mass and yesterday they, in my opinion, trashed the Church for passing the collection plate - it’s all about money to them!
Yesterday, my 20 year old nephew (I’m his Godmother) began a “discussion” about Evolution and that he is questioning the existence of God. Of course, he is attending a state University so I know where this is coming from! I sat across the table from him is utter disbelief but what is a kid to do when your parents don’t bother to take you to church after your confirmation! My sister (his mother) doesn’t want to hear anything about religion, so when I called her into the room she didn’t answer me. My youngest sister made a comment behind my back “see what I mean” and walked out when I was trying to defend creationism and existence of God! Her significant other (they don’t bother to get married, just have 2 kids and live together for eternity) chimed in that he agreed with my nephew.
Luckily my Protestant sister-in-law and I see eye to eye on one thing - the existence of God (We differ from there greatly!). She was trying to help me out. My own teenagers had left the family gathering by this time, thank goodness.
I’m sitting here this morning at my computer as I declined the traditional shopping trip with my sisters and father. Christmas to them is all about shopping, spending too much money on gifts, taking down the tree on the day after Christmas - Christ has absolutely left my extended family’s Christmas. The only person other than myself that attends any type of services is my little brother. I am ridiculed if I even suggest praying before our Christmas dinner. It’s a free for all.
This morning I’m feeling ridiculed by my siblings. My mother (who was a convert to the Faith) and my Grandmother who are both deceased are probably rolling in their graves. When my Grandmother died a year ago, I did all the arrangements, said the rosary at the wake, chose all the readings - everything. The priest during his homily asked who is going to lead this extended family in the Faith. Of course, everyone points to me but if I open my mouth about anything to do with Faith, they treat me like I’m a moron or just ignore me.
I’m pondering letting my sisters and father know just how upset I was yesterday. Letting them know exactly why I didn’t go with them today, why what my nephew said was so disturbing.
Has anyone else been in this situation? How do I handle it? My biggest concern is that these people are going to start rubbing off on my kids.