I first want to thank everyone for their earlier support I received a couple months ago about my first year of marriage being so incredibly tough since we were so opposite. Your responses really helped me value our marriage and take the right steps to building a foundation. We've gone to a counseling session and the counselor really helped us realize that we need to respond to each other in a way that means more to that person, instead of responding in a way that you yourself would like a response. In other words, when you have a conflict, voice it in a way that makes sense to them...not you.
After that session, we really tried hard (we fell back a couple times) and it really made such a calm endearing period of marriage, which was a great relief and we are very happy. I've also started taking medication to help with my hormonal issues with PCOS and I'm sure that has helped as well.
Though this past week (it is that "time of the month", so this may be magnified from the hormones), I've fell back into the old way, worrying about everything he does (I got upset with him one day, since he thought this funny video I showed him was not funny at all, hence starting the old worrying I had that we weren't that couple that loves everything together). It worries me, since I feel like I've lapsed again this week, criticizing what he does and what we do together in my head. I know it's also especially hard, since my two closest girlfriends are single, recently got out of long relationships and they keep saying how glad they are to be out of a relationship, because their former significant others didn't share their interests, or that the relationship was too much work to be worthwhile. It really hurts, since our relationship takes a TON of work, and we are opposites the majority of the time.
What tips or suggestions do you have to help me get through these rough patches of relapse? One thing I do that has helped me is to read the thread I had before on here and remember the support I had and how I wasn't alone in this situation. I've also prayed and it calms me temporarily, but I need more suggestions to help me out!
Also, as I mentioned before, he has a humor that loves to be sarcastic or tease me sometimes and this week it has been driving me up the wall. I take it personally and I feel like he isn't supporting me all the time, so that has brought me down a bit. I do realize that his family ALWAYS jokes like that, so it's natural to him that he thinks it's funny, and I think its funny on my good days. But it can wear me down sometimes, when I just want him to act more supportive and not make everything a negative joke. Any suggestions on how to bring this up to him without feeling like I'm criticizing him once again or not accepting him for who he is?