[quote=Firebug]BlestOne, Thanks for the suggestion. I have tried looking at my church, but I haven’t really seen anybody my age there that I don’t already know, and I’ve tried befriending them, but we’ve just been so different.
Puzzleannie, I graduated highschool already anyway, so what’s done is done, and I’m glad it was done this way. I had more time to devote to learning about the Catholic Church and also to my education. I was not preoccupied at all. :)The acquaintances that I have met at church are both from the male and female genders, and it’s not that I’m just looking for guys…
Marian84, finally, somebody that’s in the same boat as myself! I myself, am a person who would prefer a Catholic (it’d just help so much), but am open to any religion. Right now, he and I are just in it for a friendship, but we have discussed and wondered why the other was single, so I feel it could turn into one of those relationships.
Also, it wouldn’t surprise me if we have passed each other on the street (or in a store, you get the idea), because I go where he lives once a week or more. Thanks agai!
Here is something to consider, and I hope that I don’t sound stodgy. I was your age not too long ago, and so I understand what you’re feeling, to an extent. Hearing the following from a priest changed my entire approach to dating:
“Dating is for courtship; courtship is for marriage; marriage is for salvation.”
I realized that I could only marry a woman who saw marriage as an embrace of the cross of Christ, a path of both joy and suffering, of both virtue and repentance, and a path fundamentally oriented not toward some ephemeral “personal fulfillment” but to true fulfillment through mutual service and a focus on the kingdom of heaven. These sound like high words and wouldn’t matter in practical life, but they are immensely practical. Consider what effect one’s view of sacrifice has on a relationship: is it an annoyance, a failure of the other partner to give me what I need, or is it rather an opportunity for me to serve Christ by letting go of something non-necessary that I wanted?
Project this thirty years into the future and you can understand why religion becomes more than a “help” but rather the center of one’s life. That doesn’t mean that “Catholic = OK”. It means that only someone who wishes to embrace the cross in marriage is OK.
This is something to keep in mind. At first it sounded to me like it would be so limiting as to prevent me from finding anybody. Later, I realized that it was so clarifying as to permit me to identify the person that God might send me with much greater ease than I might otherwise have experienced.
Pray for guidance to God, and I wish you many blessings in your search for the mate that He has selected.