I really want a girlfriend. I really just want to fall in love. I want to go on picnics, and to the mountains, and have someone to share myself with, and be there for them when they need me, and go to Mass with and pray with and…
Why is this so hard?
Hahaha this sounds like me a year ago. I’ve never been in a relationship with a girl (I haven’t met one that I’ve been attracted to and wasn’t already taken :shrug:) and felt your same need to be romantic and very personally close with a special someone. I felt like I NEEDED a girlfriend to fill a hole in my life.
Let me tell you, you need to embrace this single season of your life. Use it to grow as close to God as possible. Think about it, even if you don’t get married until age 30, you’ll still be spending most of your life married! Enjoy the freedom you have now!
You don’t need to wait until you meet that special girl to share the love you have inside of you. That’s just selfish. The more you grow in your love for God and others right now, the more love you’ll be able to share with that girl someday. And, you’ll form a stronger identity for yourself that isn’t dependant upon another person’s opinion of you.
And what if God actually wants you to remain single the rest of your life? Would you be able to handle that? We ALL have to be willing to take that vocation. How do you think a person born with same-sex attractions handles this reality, knowing that God has called them to a celibate life, despite what they may desire for themselves?
Place this desire of yours into God’s hands, and you will not be disappointed. Go where He leads you in your life, and if there really is a special girl out that that He has chosen for you, do you think He would let you miss out on each other because you were doing His will?
Trust me, I know how you feel. I’m almost 20. I’ve seen all of my friends date girls, while I’ve never even kissed one :o. Yet I still do not feel lacking, because I have God, the source of all love!