I have been reading a lot of the threads about abortion and here is my question.
7 years ago, I was unemployed with a lot of time on my hands. I hung out with people out of boredom (I always knew they weren't the healthiest bunch) but I was going through a hard time and had no support and was not thinking clearly.
One girl got pregnant and told me she was going to abort the baby. To be honest, I think she wasn't planning on telling me a thing but when I asked if she was pregnant she probably felt there was no need to hide the truth.
She knew I was a practicing Catholid. Her exact words were 'If you no longer wish to be my friend then I guess we will not be friends anymore. At the time, I was paranoid of not having any friends so I said something to the effect 'What kind of Catholic dumps friends' thinking in my naive mind I had to show how loving real Catholics are. I tried to make myself into a great person I was not. I was using the saying 'Love the sinner hate the sin' excuse to justify my behaviour. I was scared of loosing a someone to spend all the time I had on my hands with. Deep down, I hate the way this woman mistreated me.
Looking back, I can see how selfish my behaviour was. Pretending to be a friend with someone I had no respect for just to have a buddy to spend time with. Not speaking up for abortion to make myself look good.
I discussed this with a priest (I can't remember if I specifically ask for absolution).
Lately (or more like for the past couple of years) I have been feeling guilty for not trying to stop the abortion. So my question is 'How guilty am I of sin?' and where does my responsibility start and end.
and after this woman had the abortion, her behaviour become very untolerable (I think it was because of the suffering she endured for killing her child) I ended up telling her I could no longer be her friend. (never gave her a reason)
Also, right or wrong, I have made my mind up that if ever someone else tells me they are thinking of aborting, I will tell them point blank that I knew a woman who suffered emotionally so badly after her abortion, it was NOT worth it. And if this woman chooses to abort, unless she tries her best to repent, I can no longer associate with her because I can not take the eratic behaviour of a woman who suffers after an abortion. Selfish again but the only option I see