I’m new to the forum. I thank you for reading this ahead of time and will greatily appreciate your comments and advice.
The question is whether or not I can get a permission for a vasectomy. Let me give some background.
I have been married for 7 years and have 3 happy children. Three children is what we planned on having before marriage and so far it seems God has agreed. We did NFP properly, although it was difficult with my wife’s menses occuring irregularly between 28 and 42 days apart; but we managed and had our three children. With our first delivery we had to convert to c-section for arrest of descent (baby too big to make it out) and non reassuring fetal heart tracing (baby getting squashed and didn’t like it). Given that my wife couldn’t dilate more than 4cm, we opted to have repeat sections with our other children. Recently we had our third happy baby. After making the primary incisions, the surgeons informed us that my wife’s uterus was on the verge of rupturing. People heal and respond to surgery differently and my wife’s uterus healed by replacing the muscular uterus with an excess of fibrous connective tissue that does not stretch or contract but tears. The surgeons tell us at that time that my wife will likely not survive another pregnancy without rupturing her uterus and they recommended a tubal ligation. I’m a physician and understand that a ruptured uterus is more than life threatening so I can’t bear to risk my wife’s life. And here is our quandry (sp?) Medically speaking, we can’t risk another pregnancy because I’m convinced something would go terribly wrong (I personally know the ObGyn surgeons well and heed their suggestions).
To add to this, with each subsequent pregnancy, my wife’s menses have become more and more irregular. At this point, 10 months post partum, my wife has not had one menstral cycle. NFP, as far as I understand it, will not work without mensrual cycles as my wife can ovulate at any time without any signs/symptoms (temp rises the day of ovulation and so can’t be predicted).
So, is there any statute that would allow me to get a vasectomy? My wife has been through 3 c-sections, a D&C after a miscarriage, and a laparoscopy to rule out an ectopic (which was negative, thank God). I’m not keen on having my wife undergo another surgery.
Anyway, it has been a long 10 or so months without normal “relations” and that’s getting old :o . I appreciate yall’s thoughts on the matter as I have not been able to find anything that deals with these types of situations.
Yours in Christ