I had a question about some issues my fiancé and I have been discussing lately about our upcoming marriage and married life.
The issue is that my fiancé is have a very hard time right now, just finished school, moved to a different state to be with me, recent death of her Grandfather, starting a new job, and the usual stresses of wedding preparation. Understandably, her psychological state has been pretty shaky at times, so much so that she’s considered going on anti depressants.
This issue is that she, as a licensed pharmacist, is aware that there is a risk of serious birth defects if she were to become pregnant while on the medication, or even for a period after she stops. Since we’re not married right now, this isn’t a concern. But what about after we’re married?
In an attempt to console her, I have offered that we could abstain from marital relations even after the wedding, for however long it might take for her to adjust to all this craziness going on and then perhaps she could go off the medication.
But this has brought up another issue. Now she’s concerned that if we abstain from relations after the wedding that our marriage will be somehow invalid or in some way defective, since she has heard that never consummating the marriage is a grounds for annulment.
I’m wondering if that’s the case? I too have heard that never consummating a marriage could be grounds for an annulment, but then Joseph and Mary never consummated their marriage and I hardly think anyone would question the validity of their marriage right?
Could someone please direct me to the relevant material in the catechism, bible, and/or cannon law to help reassure me distressed fiancé?