Hi all, I have been feeling uneasy about my fiance for a while. I feel as though my feelings are unwarranted but they keep coming to the surface.
I'm afraid I wont be able to trust him around children...like he may harm them somehow.
There was only a couple times where I felt like he crossed a boundary with children. The first time we were at a mall in the little kiddie section so we could allow my son to play. There was a little girl trying to go down a slide and much to my surprise, my fiance picked her up and helped her to go down the slide. After the second time of helping her, I could tell the girl's mom was uncomfortable because she called her daughter over to tell her not to go down the slide anymore.
The other time that made me uneasy was when we were at one of my sister's housewarming parties. My fiance took one of my nieces, whom he has only seen maybe once or twice before, onto his lap at one point and gave her a kiss on the side of her head.
I know these are just two incidents but I feel like they weren't appropriate.
Overall, he is a great guy to me. Treats me like a princess really :o.
The only issues we've had between us mostly had to do with physical intimacy (which I know is a pretty big deal). We had issues going on where I would say we could only go so far as far as showing physical affection goes, but then, knowing what my weaknesses were, my fiance would push (not in a forceful way) for more physical intimacy when the opportunity would arise. It wasn't until after I met with a counselor, that I was able to see the situation revolving more around poor communication rather than a problem with sex and I was more effective in speaking to my fiance about this issue. I have recently been able to finally stop committing unchaste sins, all by the grace of God :).
In case anyone is wondering my fiance is a baptized Catholic who hadn't attended Mass for several years until he met me. He is now going to be receiving Confirmation and First Communion this winter. We are also in the beginning stages of the marriage process. I am also pregnant if that is of interest to anyone :o
My fiance tells me everyday that he loves me and that he's willing to do anything for me. He has proved these words many times over by his actions. He also has never been weird around my son either...
...Which is why I feel absolutely horrible for feeling like he could be unsafe around children. I think I may be paranoid because when I read about the characteristics of people who typically harm children, "the experts" always say that a perpetrator could be anybody.
I think too that I am having a hard time believing that I have actually found a good man. I keep thinking this is "too good to be true." Please forgive me if what I am presenting sounds terrible :(
& thank you for your time, God bless.