Okay so as of right now I am an (almost) 25 year old man who would really like some help in the dating game. As of right now I am currently working on my masters in Special Education since I couldn’t find a job as a social studies teacher (the market is flooded and in all honesty while I loved history I don’t know if I loved it enough to teach it looking back at it). I also live at home with my mom and my brother with Autism who is 2 years younger than me and I currently work 2 part time jobs and volunteer in a Special Ed classroom. I also am fairly involved in my faith and am trying to grow in it more.
My main issue is though I don’t really have any prospects or at least prospects that would go out with me. I’ve tried online dating but to be honest I haven’t had much luck and I’ve only continued to talk to one girl who has issues of her own which make me leary of dating her (mostly health issues and she also had something really bad happen to her which made her health worse). Honestly I’ve only asked one girl out in person and that was my freshman year of college. Even as i’ve gained confidence in the past year I still feel like if I ask a woman out that i’ll get the “you’re a nice guy but I don’t like you like that or think your attractive” (I also struggle with seeing myself as attractive. I’m a lot better than I used to be and don’t feel I’m that ugly but I will admit i’m overweight and balding which i’m sure most young women don’t like. The only compliments I really get are that I’m very devout and that i’m courageous in my faith which I guess is something but I still worry a little though lately I just say it’s in God’s hands.
So is their any advice. I live in a great diocese but there isn’t much for young out of college people and being in a more conservative area most people my age are married or engaged or if they are single aren’t really living that great of lives. Most of the parishes I live near are older and don’t really have any ministries at all and it just seems like an impossible challenge. I know most people would say move but I don’t really have much of a choice at the moment and in all honesty I just don’t really want to deal with it and let God take care of it but I know that when finding a spouse you have to put a little effort in but I just don’t know how. My social skills aren’t bad but i’ll admit i’m shy. I also don’t have many friends close by anymore and my family doesn’t really know many other people so I don’t really have any outlets to meet everyone. Even at my jobs there aren’t any single people my age (my grocery store job is mostly high school kids and a few college kids while the school I volunteer at doesn’t have many single people and I don’t know if any are Catholic since I want to date and marry someone who is catholic. So what do I do? I know not to worry but I need to help god out too. He isn’t going to send a spouse to my door and into my lap (at least its not very likely I mean he is God and can do anything :))