Our son is 14 and tells us he hates going to Church and will never be Catholic when he grows up. He has always disliked Church. It has been a struggle with him since he was about 1 year old. I can remember literally dragging him to PSR when he was younger. He would intentionally not get dressed and not get out of our car.
He had periods of time when he was better: the year he made his First Communion, and the year he was confirmed, he was really into it. His dad is not Catholic but started going to Mass out of the blue about 4 years ago and never misses a Sunday Mass. Our son does not fight going to Mass anymore, but lets us know he doesn't like it.
One of his best friends is Catholic and being confirmed this year,but his older sister (who my son looks up to) says she is an atheist. His other best friend since age 5 is not Catholic but has attended church from time to time with his mom, grandparents and us. His parents divorced last year and he says he no longer believes in God.
Our son tells us he doesn't know if he believes in God. I know I can't force him to believe or to be Catholic. We do require that all of our children attend Sunday Mass, Days of Holy Obligation, Holiday Masses and reconciliation several times a year. Our church is very small with not much to offer for teens. There is PSR for teens occasionally on some Sundays but our son says it is very boring. There is a larger church in the next town which we used to attend with more for teens but my husband prefers the small church and I think going to Mass as a family is important. There is an active youth program at the church in the next town but they meet at the same time his band practices and that is his one big passion. Any advice for us?