so there’s this guy, we met about 7 years ago, we grew very fond of each other and maybe fell in love (well i’m not really sure on my part, he says he loves me) i wasn’t that strong of a catholic back then so we ended up doing some things that i didn’t know were wrong but do now so i stopped. basically i used to think only sex outside of marriage was not ok, which of course isn’t quite accurate, anyways, i have learned since then.
anyways my problem is that i’m not sure of my feelings, he still says he loves me even though i’ve bbacked off and told him why we shouldn’t be doing those things. i don’t doubt that he does care about me because he understood when i explained it . the other thing is that my parents don’t really like him and his parents don’t realluy like me either. if this goes any further, i know it’s just going to be a mess. i’ve had enough conflicts with my parents and i don’t want to make them upset or angry’ they’ve done so much for me, it just wouldn’t be right for me to do this.
i feel like God is calling me more to the single life now anyways. the things is, he just keeps holding on and saying that he’ll never find anyone else like me and he’ll wait forever and all that stuff.
i don’t know how to stop this now, i’ve also been trying help him come to the faith, he was baptized catholic and had first communion but his parents aren’t religious at all and made no effort to educate him in the faith so it’s going to take a while.
on the one hand, i’m sure we can just be friends because i’ve got a better handle on my feelings now and can control them well. on the other, i don’t want t him to just be stringing along and not letting go.
so i feel like these are the only options i have, start being mean to him so he’ll stop lovine me (don’t plan on that one because it’s wrong), cut as much contact as possible, or just try to be friends and keep communicaitons open and keep trying to help him come to the church. am i missing anything? another advice would be appreciated. and also prayers please.