[quote="JayLynn, post:1, topic:224669"]
I am a SAHM to 4 children and a 5th on the way. I LOVE my job as a mother, but I could live without the rest of it.
Do any of you ladies have any advice on how to find motivation and fulfillment with the everyday cooking and cleaning. I loath it all, but I want so much to provide a clean home for my family and feed them well too. I just get so tired of the same thing day after day, such mindless, thankless chores.
I know that people often hate their work, but at least with a job you get sick days and weekends. No such luck for the house wife. How can I overcome this daily dread and accept my vocation with grace and joy?
Wow. Yeah, I can well imagine that you'd be a bit burned out, what with 4 kids and carrying a 5th.
Do you have the ability to get out and join-say, a book club, the local gym, something like that, while your husband takes the kids? I'd try for something like that weekly. Couldn't hurt, anyhow...perhaps there's something at your church? I know my friend's church offers a book club and a jazz night, they actually have someone play jazz and the members have coffee and fellowship.
I think "play dates" are nothing short of insane, but...hey. I'm a single mom of one boy, so what do I know? Perhaps if you get together with other moms who have kids in the same age bracket, that would help you?
I used to clean houses, and what I would do is play music or have talk radio on, something to distract myself from the mindless task. Oh, and there's a trick to cleaning...you want to make it as easy on yourself as possible...get all your cleaning supplies together in a basket, and get you some cloth diapers...they are excellent cleaning cloths....do one room a day, something like that-there's more tips to making cleaning really easy, but I'd be writing a book......I'm guessing you'd have to wash every day...what with 4 kids, your hubby, and yourself...perhaps you can manage to do that when the kids are down for a nap or something?
Would your husband help you?
Most do nowadays, you know....both my husbands did....we shared all the cleaning tasks...ALL of them...even cooking...
I am the world's worst cook, so I can't help you there...I'm butchering some potatoes for a salad and making bean soup...that my boy won't touch with a 10 foot pole...so I'm hoping I can get him to eat potato salad and a sandwich for dinner. Yeah. I'm a mess like that. But I digress...
Oh, and yeah...are you able to have down time with your husband? Just the 2 of you? One of my co-workers has a weekly "date" night with her hubby, and nothing will cut into "date night"...that's very important to them...
I wish I had other suggestions. I really can't relate...I always worked, or went to school, one....so....I will be blunt, I think it takes a special person to be a stay-at-home mom. I couldn't do it. I'd be in the loony bin. Yep.