[quote="1ke, post:4, topic:221278"]
I grew up in a small-ish town. There were about a thousand kids in my high school but I lived outside of town in a community of about 1,000. But, several cities of 15K to 30K people were not too far away.
Then as an adult went to a large college and then moved to one of the 5 largest cities in the US (3+ Million people) and lived there for 15 years before meeting my DH.
I met DH through Ave Maria Singles. Like you, the discussion turned to who would move and where.
I hope you won't mind if I build off of your response, because you said a lot of things that came to my mind and I think you have given a balanced account.
He is a farmer, with animals and crops. We live on a 480 acre farm. The nearest town is 15 minutes drive and it has 5,000 people. The nearest major city is 1 hour away and has 250K people. The nearest large city (3+ Million) is 4 hours away.
The nearest town is a 15 min drive, but I doubt if there are 1000 people there. The nearest city is an hour's drive.
I love living in a small, rural town. I kept my job and work from home, so that helps. I travel some with my job too. And, we were older when we met and married.
I left my job with a major corporation six months prior to our move here. There is no chance that I could find similar work here, but I'm ok with that.
There are pros and cons to wherever you live. You can't run to Starbucks because there isn't one. You miss all the great restaurants b/c Dairy Queen is the only haute cuisine around out here. But you get great kitchen gadgets for Christmas and cook gourmet. :)
The internet is really the great equalizer b/c while the things I'd come to appreciate from a shopping standpoint aren't available locally, they are a click away. Unique ingredients, sophisticated style, whatever, it's just a click away.
Thank God (seriously) for satellite tv and internet! The internet is where I get my clothes, shoes, books, this website
On the con side, even after you've lived in a small town 10 years, you are still an outsider-- except there are some exceptions made for someone who marries in. People know everyone else's business. Speeding tickets are reported in the local newspaper in the Crime Beat. People gossip. It's hard to break in to some social circles. People are slow to change. New ideas don't catch on quickly. People don't pay much attention to what's showing at the movies (because you only have 2 screens and they don't get first run movies). It's a different lifestyle.
It's true that everyone does know everyone else's business, but people are always helping their neighbors out. My neighbor has a police scanner. He gives me all the local information. There are basically two camps, the natives and the second-home owners. The great outdoors is the entertainment here. If you need nightlife, you are out of luck.
But, I don't need sophisticated style because jeans and a sweatshirt are just fine for Mass. People are friendly. We don't lock our doors. Crime is low. The air is clean. People work hard and have conservative values.
Same here, except I lock my doors because I'm still a city girl.
No one else can tell you if this lifestyle is for you. But, I tend to think home is where the heart is.
Maybe you can try it out? Depending on your job, you might be able to work remotely? Or take a long vacation and see if you are bored out of your mind in a week.
A try out would be such a good idea. .
That's the sum total of my wisdom 5 years on after getting out of the rat race. I don't miss traffic. I don't miss long lines shopping. I don't miss pollution. I don't miss crime. I don't miss the hassle that city life can bring.
Can't argue with any of that. One thing that may help greatly is to make some social connections, like your new church, in advance if at all possible.
I do miss friends. I do miss bookstores. I do miss good restaurants. I do miss my family.
I've moved long distance several times and each time found it took longer than I thought it would to feel like it was home.