[quote="atara, post:11, topic:218695"]
After my son was born, all my ideas of working turned upside down. I even went to traditional therapy and was told that I could "have it all" and "daycare was good for him" and "I needed my downtime," etc. etc. After a year and a half of crying, stress, and anti-depressants, I did it the way my heart was telling me to and I have not looked back. It blew my mind that trained social workers would even admit "If you can stay home with him that great!" but then seem to run out of ways to help me do it. Well, we ARE doing it. It is a sacrifice, but I am no longer a crazy basket case trying to juggle it all.
I do have interests and things that nurture my own soul, but not at the expense of my child.
I got a lot of pressure from the school, because I did let both my sons go to pre-school starting at age 3, but only a couple of days a week, half-days until kindergarten (I thought it was insane to pay someone to watch them take a nap!). The teachers would tell me that my son would learn so much more if I'd just let him come full-time. I even knew several moms who didn't work but their kids were in "school" full-time from age 3 all the way through! Other moms would start getting restless when summer would be coming on; I used to celebrate the start of summer because it meant I could have my kids to myself for 3 mos.!! I used to cry when they went back in the fall!! I loved being home with them. I never felt one moment of regret or boredom. We did all kinds of fun things and I am so fortunate that I got to live all the memories. It used to break my heart when a kid would go through a milestone at school, and then the teacher had to tell the parent about it instead of the parent seeing it first-hand.
I realized that for the school, of course it was money for them if I increased my sons' time there...and I just ignored them. It was a little harder when my 2nd son wanted to go full-time and even after-school, because that is what his friends did (usually working single mothers). He actually felt deprived because he got to come home after school! :eek: