Well, I don’t think you’re going to get a strong response to this question. Not that men haven’t recovered. But because men aren’t so foolish to admit that “yes they have cheated on their wives” on a public forum.
There are probably a good number of men who have cheated on their wives, and have been counceled in the confessional to keep it from their wives. Out of compassion for the wife, not the husband. It is painful for a wife to learn of infidelity. And if a husband repents, cleans up his act all without her knowing, some say it is wisest to leave the wife out of it.
Also, perhaps a guy has cheated, and his wife knows about it. But the rest of the world doesn’t need to know.
If you interpret infidelity narrowly, as in “He who even LOOKS at another woman with lustful thoughts has committed adultery”; then you can color me guilty, along with other forms of less severe infidelity.
And you can also color me “recovering”.
I realize that isn’t exactly what you’re looking for, but I think it can give you hope. I have been on the long road of turning around. And it hasn’t been easy. Not easy on me. Not easy on my wife. Just look at a number of my posts and you’ll get the impression that I’m one ornery cuss.
If you want my recommendation, read Huck Finn. When you get to the part where Huck Finn leaves ****** Jim on the raft to go for supplies, or something, read it r e a l l y s l o w. While Huck is paddling away, he is struggling with himself whether or not to turn in Jim as a runaway slave. Jim, is no fool, he understands what Huck is thinking. Jim begins laying the praise on Huck really heavy. “True blue Huck” he calls him, talking about how loyal Huck is. After all that, Huck just CAN’T bring himself to turn in Jim.
If every wife sent her husband off to work the way Jim does to Huck. . .