I don’t know if this is a good place to ask for help about this, but it would be nice to get not only a catholic opinion on this, but all my friends are MEN and they are MUTUAL friends with my husband.
Anyway. Here goes.
Any wives out there have issues…like, with their husbands not wanting to be intimate that can help me? I am at my wits end! My husband is caring, sweet, he loves to cuddle and hold hands and kiss even in public. But only pecks really. He has told me he can’t figure out why he has no urge to be intimate with me. Now here is the real kicker: we’ve been married for ONE. MONTH.
Any time we do get intimate he forces himself to do it (ladies, you know what I mean, and you can tell if he is) He and I have talked about it, because it started the DAY we got married. We both waited our whole lives for each other, and now he doesn’t want anything to do with physical intimacy! It didn’t used to be that way. We struggled our whole dating years (2 1/2) to keep things “pure” and it was hard, but we did it with the occasional slip up which we went to confession for. Or passion was there, but on our wedding night it shriveled up for him and died.
I can’t figure out what I am doing wrong. I try to dress nice for him, I do my hair and makeup and I have been desperately trying to lose weight so he’ll be attracted to me again, but it’s not working. I am trying to be patient with him but it’s hard! My desire is there full force (especially with as hot as he is!) but…I don’t know what to do. I talked to him about counselling but he says it won’t work and will make it worse. Accomapnied with “we’ve only been married 1 month. I’m not going in for this.” It’s hurting him, and it’s killing me inside and is starting to cause fights. Please help me if you can. This is really painful, and NOT what I thought God had in mind as a reward for a couple who waited until their wedding day.
oh and by the way, it was like this on our honeymoon too. We sat in our suite on a cruise ship and stared blankly at each other; Me frustrated, and him rather confused.