My husband and I went to a retrouvaille weekend recently and let me just say that it did not go too well for us. I heard wonderful, glowing success stories from married couples whose marriages were on the brink of divorce–so I’m quite sure it helps a lot of people. Nonetheless, here were my gripes:
-We had NO BREAKS whatsoever between talks and meals which was physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting and made me feel like I was on the verge of some psychological break(down)!
-I felt that they purposely kept everyone in the dark about the schedules which felt disrespectful–I mean, we’re all adults. Why so much secrecy?
-The scripts we were given to follow (in order to facilitate communication) were so rigid that it was easy to go off course and cause a complete communication break down (which did happen for us)
-There was barely any time to dialogue with one’s spouse after writing exercises. If we touched on something deep that required more discussion, it was already time to go to the next talk which was very frustrating
-When communication did break down between my spouse and I, we felt “on our own”. We could have used a little bit of time and help to get back on track but that wasn’t offered as there was a strict schedule to be kept.
Don’t get me wrong–the people there are caring and very sincere people. In the end, we just felt that maybe it’s not for everyone. Did anyone else have a similar experience?