At the risk of being controversial,and I guess what the heart of this thread comes down to,is this really true?
Isn’t it true that some women in society are more feminine than others,even if feminists deny it?
I don’t mean so much Ellen’s clothing etc,but the “overall picture”.
The way i see it there can be 3 versions of how femininity is defined:
that super feminine (externally) is the ideal for women (particularly Christian,Muslim,religious women) and that all women should aspire to this.Necessarily reaching it is another story.
that femininity (and likewise masculinity) are more of a continuum,like a bell curve,and that most women (except gender neutral ones) lie somewhere on that continuum.
that all women are feminine simply by virtue of being born a woman,including women that are gender neutral,the “strongest” female Afl players or otherwise “butch” women.
Many Feminists would go with Version 3,but in my viewpoint is either Version 1 or 2 are correct.