Lately, I have been noticing that when I am just shooting the breeze with a man he is pretty relaxed until I bring up his kids. If I ask how old they are, names, what they are interested in, how they are doing, his tone totally changes and sounds defensive. I have also noticed that they change the subject pretty quickly.
A more specific example is my photographer for the wedding. He and I were emailing back and forth about wedding details and he said that when the time gets closer that we’d get together about details but to hold off because he and his wife now have a baby. Now, I knew his wife was pregnant but did not ask about the baby and wasn’t going to because A. anything could have happened, like stillbirth, and B. I didn’t want to be nosy. But since he brought it up in an email I asked how the baby was and when she was born. I never heard back from him. Maybe he was busy, but other times when we emailed he got back within a day. It’s been 2 weeks since I heard from him again. Of course there could be other mitigating circumstances, but I guess I wanted to see if the women here have noticed that, or men could give a reason why other men would act like that. I see nothing wrong with it of course, but just wanted to see if there was something I’m missing.