Wow! Lots of opinions here. Reading about all the troubles on all sides really makes me appreciate my own kids and the kids in this area. I live in a small town with a Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Episcopal, and 4 small Baptist churches (no idea why so many small Baptist churches… different doctrines maybe???) Anyway, we have good kids and bad kids in our little town… We even have some in-between kids.
From what I see, it isn’t about how much money or what religion the family professes…however it does seem that those with no faith are a little at a disadvantage. What I do see as making a difference is parental involvement. Some of our residents don’t seem to take the time to actually raise their kids. Maybe because they are working too much or maybe because they don’t know how… any number of reasons is possible. I think it is too easy today to spend no time at all with your kids…
Want to know where they are? Give them a cell phone… Want to tell them where you are??? Give them a cell phone. Want to know when they will be home? Give them a cell phone. I am not against cell phones, in fact my kids all have them, but it isn’t a substitute for mom and dad. My kids got their cell phones this year at 17 and 15, mostly because I insisted that they never get into a situation that they needed to get a hold of me and couldn’t, and the 15 yo goes to school in another town. But I see 9 and 10 yo’s that carry them as a substitute for mom or dad knowing where they are!!! My own step dd got one for her 12th birthday from her mom!!! My kids have yet to use their allotted minutes because they aren’t running around when I’m not there.
I make sure we enforce rules in my house and in public… it’s part of the parent thing. I see kids that are rude and disrespectful to their parents in public and I shudder… Basic rules of etiquette are definitely lacking!!! My kids are no where near perfect… but I can tell you this… even when I get called to ds’s school because he failed a class or did something stupid, the person calling me ALWAYS says, “He was polite about it.” or “He told the truth.” Or something to that effect.
I worked in public and private schools several years ago. I can’t tell you the number of rude kids I saw. I had a kindergartener in the public school say F U to me! That wasn’t an uncommon thing at that school. At the private school manners were enforced and I only ever had 1 kid give me problems… and he had some serious mental problems. If you don’t teach respect and manners… don’t expect others to do it for you. If kids don’t have respect and self respect… well those are the kids we don’t think act too nice.
I don’t think it has anything to do with what religion a kid is brought up in… rather the parenting that they have received.