[quote="benjammin, post:1, topic:305485"]
For example, say someone has aspergers, autism or depression or any other mental illness. How are they supposed to find someone. I know God has his ways, but sometimes it just seems impossible. For example, I have a friend who has Aspergers. While he is a great and devout man devoted to his faith and loves music, he wants to be married and feels he is called, but he just doesn't have the social nuances needed to get a spouse.
What about people who are just too odd or too different, or that are sociall awkward. I'm not saying God has abandoned these people, but unless a few people I know have received the wrong callings, I feel like some people are just set up for heartbreak. So are some people who are called to marriage just setting themselves up for this. Or are they just not listening to god.
I know how you feel man. I have Schizoaffective Disorder (which is pretty well under control), SEVERE depression, and perhaps even Aspergers and I can't help but look at the young women who ARE at church and go "welp, so much for that." I can't work, and am weird as all get out, so I don't feel to optimistic. I still hold on to hope though, because I honestly believe that God told me that I will find someone. (God talking to me is not a common occurrence, I swear :p ) I've mentioned this to other Catholics and have been told right away that I'm probably called to be single. Not even an attempt to look on the bright side or convince me that there's hope. Poor folks get married all the time all over the world throughout all of history. Why is it that if you're poor and live in America, all of a sudden Christians think you shouldn't get married? Isn't that essentially assimilating to the surrounding middle-class culture?
Why are Catholics such normies? As a Protestant I felt I had a place because I knew there were freaks and geeks there. Now I feel like an island.