Hmm… I think perhaps I wasn’t clear and I apologize for any confusion. Just to be clear, my DH and I do not use birth control and neither has my mom, nor do we (to the best of my knowledge) disobey the Vatican. I just couldn’t think of the right words to convey my message. It seems like a lot of people on these boards are more obedient to the Church than their parents are. Many posters comment that their mother/father have encouraged them to use birth control, or have expressed their belief that the poster is a bit fanatical in his/her beliefs because they adhere to the teachings of the Church.
In my particular case, my mother is a good, prayerful, go-to-church-everyday kind of a person, but we disagree on things like liturgical dancers, hand-holding at mass, etc. When I discuss things like this with her, she usually says I need to loosen up. She is also opposed to the Latin Mass, which I would love to attend.
I obviously wouldn’t want to classify this as good Catholic/bad Catholic, because my mom is a good Catholic, she just is a bit more “liberal?” and accepting of newer traditions and practices.
Again- I apologize if this implied something that wasn’t intended.