He likely is ignorant of the fact that sexual abuse by priests is no more common than in any other area. In fact it is lower than the incidence of sexual abuse in education settings.
His ignorance is completely understandable given the inordinate amount of attention paid by the media to abuse by priests. Personally, I suspect this inordinate attention is at least in part due to an unspoken set of higher expectations for the Catholic Church. Makes one wonder if people don’t somehow know the Catholic Church is the true church, so unconsciously expect more from it.
Anyway, here’s an article from LifesiteNews that puts the issue in more realistic context than ABCNNBCBS does.
**Clergy Abuse in Context - Teachers Sexually Abuse Students Far More Often
The Catholic League report underscores the reality that the incidence of sexual abuse by clergy is, in comparison, far less than the incidence among other professionals. A survey by the Washington Post found that “Over the last four decades, less than 1.5 percent of the estimated 60,000 or more men who have served in the Catholic clergy have been accused of child sexual abuse.” And a similar survey by the New York Times found an incidence rate of “1.8 percent of all priests ordained from 1950 to 2001.”
The incidence of abuse by teachers is even more staggering, as a 1988 study reported in The Handbook on Sexual Abuse of Children reveals. It reported that “One in four girls, and one in six boys, is sexually abused [by a teacher] by age 18.” A 1991 study revealed that “17.7 percent of males who graduated from high school, and 82.2 percent of females, reported sexual harassment by faculty or staff during their years in school. Fully 13.5 percent said they had sexual intercourse with their teacher,” the report states.
The Full report can be seen at catholicleague.org/research/abuse_in_social_context.htm
Also, you might give him a copy of the report **“Clergy Sexual Abuse: Facts, Myths and Questions” **from the-tidings.com/2007/abuse/abuse15.pdf
He could be using this issue as an excuse for other objections.
You could offer him John Martignoni’s explanation of the Catholic teachings on Original Sin & Infant Baptism, which is freely available from www.biblechristiansociety.com.
Were they married in the Catholic Church or his church?
IIRC, for a Catholic/non-Catholic marriage to be approved, both parties need to agree to raise any children they are blessed with in the Catholic Church.