Obviously if I hurt the other person by hitting or wishing them evil or calling them bad names it's sinful. But if my spouse says he would do something and didn't do it and I express that frustration and am angry about it, is that sinful?
So it's over something my hb said he would do and didn't finish doing (not a minor thing but a very important thing). And I've been very patient for a long time, trying to encourage him to finish, and he just doesn't do it. He talks about doing it, but doesn't do it. So I bring it up and ask directly, are you planning to do this or not, and he gets all defensive and turns it all on me, like I'm being too demanding and nagging. What am I supposed to do if he doesn't do it, other than tell him how I feel about his not doing it, and have told him how very important it is to me? When it is a thing he PROMISED to do and hasn't finished doing. So I ask him "when are you going to finish it" and he gets all mad and turns it on me.
So my question is what is a good way to handle something like this?
We both raised our voices, I think he does it first to control me and I do it in response out of frustration. Also when you are really frustrated, what can you do with that frustration if the other person just won't listen and takes everything defensively even when it's not meant that way? I know men don't like nagging but honestly, what are you supposed to do it they don't pay attention to their own behavior and listen when you try to talk to them before you get angry? I noticed I ate some junk after this argument. Any thoughts