We agreed to be godparents to my nephew, many years ago. My db is not a practicing catholic, but he pretends to be and will tell you he goes to Church almost every week. However, my nephew is now 6 years old, and when I take him to mass with us (he lives about 2 hours away, so it’s seldom that this occurs) he has no clue what’s going on. So I know he’s not really going. We always send him books to help him understand his faith at his level, like veggie tales books and videos, but my brother doesn’t read to him and I doubt he really puts in Veggies Tales to the player sooner that Cars.
Next year my nephew is supposed to make his first communion. As godparents, DH and I are at a complete loss as to what is best. My brother would likely throw a fit if we advised him that we thought he should not proceed unless he was ready to start supported his son in his faith. If he is going to push it and his priest locally doesn’t interfere, should we voice our objection or just do whatever we can to prepare him appropriately? Even if he does receive, it would be a one-time occurance until Christmas then came along.
When our nephew was baptised, we pulled some favors with our church back home and gave my brother and his wife baptismal prep over the phone (they live across the country at the time), then a family friend priest agreed to baptise him at the vigil back home where our family would be united at Easter.
If we know that our nephew will not be brought to Church as we can’t step in and bring him ourselves, should be support his receiving the Eucharist? At this point, I assure you it means NOTHING to him, but my brother will expect it. Our own DD received this year and we made a huge deal and had a big party at our house with a tonne of people. By DB will expect the same. The difference is that our DD knew what it meant and had been aching to receive.
Any suggestions? We plan to discuss with our priest as well, but I’m still wondering what others think. I want to support our nephew’s faith, and I don’t want to upset by DB and a result my entire family, but I’m not sure we can make this for him what it should be. I fear that he’ll walk up and receive a wafer in his mind. Should I fight to hold off until he understands the incredible gift he will receive?
Appreciate your thoughts…