I’m basically wondering if one spouse discovering they are effectively asexual is grounds for annullment?
I’ve been married 3 months, and we haven’t consummated yet. That’s due to getting our Natural Family Planning timing right (we’re avoiding pregnancy for a while as we’re quite young), but also because I find it kind of painful. After seeing a doctor, it’s been put down to being tense and nervous during.
Anyway, in short, I am very unenthused about sex. I don’t look forward to it, and it’s never something I think about in any way.
To clarify, it’s not because my husband is inattentive; he’s very considerate and unselfish whenever we’re intimate. And I can feel attraction and arousal, but only after sort of “getting through” the general apathy first.
I’m scared, because I know sex is important to my husband as a means of open expression, which is fine. But I worry over time my general lack of interest will really take its toll. I love him, but I don’t know if I can make myself match his libido. It would only be about 9-11 times a month, after I’ve ovulated, but that’s a lot all at once. I think I’d really come to dread those days of the month.