would welcome advice on 19 yo college student living at home. Was into drinking and “partying” (living with other guys) but asked to come back home because life was so hard. Has legal problems (minor in possession, gas-and-go) that he is taking care of responsibly. Is working and going to school. Has to test for alcohol and drugs daily which he pays for and does do on his own without any prompting from anyone. He has matured somewhat from before he left.
HOWEVER, he still hangs with the same friends even though he has heard from many different sources that he’ll eventually get in trouble if he does not re-establish with the better crowd.
I’ve established the same curfew he had before - which he keeps most of the time except usually either on a Friday or a Saturday night he ends up not coming home at all (says he is at the house he stayed at previously). “I fell asleep watching a movie.” Again, he tests daily for alcohol and drugs in order to avoid jail.
I hit my limit with this yesterday and told him if he does not change his friends, he is free to do so but will have to live somewhere else starting next weekend. We have been in church since he was born and so knows lots of others his age from there.
Would welcome others’ experience with this type of situation and the outcome from the actions taken…