When I say they were married in everything but, I mean “cohabitation”. I am sorry if it is not understandable.
Still doesn’t agree. Allowing does not equal that everything happens before is morally neutral.
For your information, the people who will get the couple married in the Church will ask any part who have had children previousely how the relationship with the other parent and the child are, and if all his/her legal obligations are honored.
That everything is right is need.
No, having had sex outside marriage, cohabit as “husband and wife” style and have fatherd children are not morally neutral. They are facts that bear consequences and moral responsabilities. The Chuch recognizes that.