I have a few questions regarding asking for parents’ blessing when getting engaged.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and within the next year are planning on getting engaged. We have 2 years left of college and are planning on getting married after we graduate.
I am not a fan of the future husband asking the girl’s dad for “permission” as I am not my dad’s property, however, I have a really great relationship with both of my parents. So does my boyfriend.
Is it appropriate for the man to ask both sets of parents for their blessing to get engaged? Does he only have to ask my parents? Should we do it together? Before or after we get engaged?
We have a bad feeling that he will not get his parents blessing because they are really uptight. It’s not that they don’t want us to get married but their reasoning is that we need to finish school because if we can’t afford our own schooling, then we can’t afford a wedding. However, we are only getting engaged. We aren’t getting married until after we graduate. We are planning a small, as inexpensive as possible, wedding as well.
If he does not receive his parents blessing, do we still go ahead and get engaged and count them out of the deal until they are willing to accept our decision? They can be really difficult people sometimes and it is rather frustrating. The whole rest of our families would support our decision except for his two parents. Where do we draw the line on honoring thy mother and father? If there is a line to be drawn…
Do we sit down together and ask for each parents blessing or does he need to just do it alone? Is that even something we still have to do? They all know we are going to get engaged, do we really need their ‘blessing’?