[quote="Tartini, post:6, topic:164252"]
I have to be open with you about the disease that you speak of. I suffer from it myself and it has not only ruined my past relationships and marriage (I am happily divorced, no children), but renders one incapable of dealing with others on a regular or intimate basis, respectively. I am currently under psychiatric help, but the Church is the only means for me to actually keep it under any control. The simplest solution is to remain as far away from relationships and people in general. It is far better that one be alone than to place others in situations that could be dangerous. Some may consider this a curse, but I have actually found it a blessing considering the circumstances of my marriage in particular.
My worst episodes include fits of paranoia, extreme irritability, often intense vocalization that undermines the other person to the point of tears and destruction of objects. Each person that suffers from the disease has varied symptoms, and if they are too severe, hospitalization may be necessary. Often government budgets are wanting in regards to who they can hospitalized, and the wards are usually full at any given time. This, of course, means that certain individuals, who need hospitalization, cannot get it and are often free and running about unchecked. One encounters them more than they realize in society. The disease is not something that is easily read in the outward appearances of a person. Some may run large corporations, and some may be homeless, but this depends on the level of how well they are able to control it with certain medications.
Yet, when I was experiencing my worst episodes, I would always realize that the children are the ones who suffer the most. I am like I am due to the facts of both chemical processes that do not work correctly, and of my early environment. I was often subjected to having to deal with an individual who was convinced that he was still fighting the war in Vietnam ( I was born in 1964, and this period I speak was about 1967-1983). The individual was firmly convinced that someone (or something) was going to get him. This often caused a great deal of panic, and when one considers that a very young child cannot tell it the situation is really one in which something bad is about to take place, the feeling will always be on the edge of their minds.
Left unchecked, they will experience difficulties in accessing reality, panic attacks, paranoia attacks, depression, bi-polar disorders, and have a very difficult time in maintaining childhood relations, and behavioral problems that can manifest themselves into violence, in some more extreme cases. I can only give these details as a personal example, as all cases are different and contain varied circumstances in the processes of future manifestations of other mental disorders.
Please remember, I am not a medical professional.
In any case, one must always consider the children first in these matters. Your spouse and you should consider seeing a councilor (of some sort) or a priest, and they will give the best advice as to the steps to take in order to either restore and maintain order or create order through healthy and mutual separation. The aspects of governmental child protective services should be a serious concern to you (this depends on where you may live). No amount of comfortable living is worth the mental health of your children.
I speak here by experience. I shall pray for you. God Bless You.
Thanks for being a big person and sharing this on CAF.