I am sure there are similar threads out there, but nevertheless, here’s my question. My dad’s best friend from high school and best man in his wedding came out as gay a while ago. He lives in New York, but he comes back to town to see my dad a lot. I did not understand the relationship my dad’s friend had with his partner growing up, but was told that this man was his “special friend.” My dad’s friend always includes his partner in his Christmas card and birthday letters to us, but my dad has basically refused to acknowledge he exists.
The two got “married” recently in New York and are coming back to my town this weekend. My dad’s friend and his partner want to get together to have an informal “reception” with my family and other friends from town. I am a young adult, and my parents respect my decisions, but I know my dad will be disappointed and hurt if I do not go. However, i feel my presence alone is showing my support for their “marriage.” My mom takes the “who am I to judge” approach to this whole thing. My dad is a pretty devout Catholic and I am really surprised he will be going to this gathering. I do not know what the “Catholic” or “moral” thing to do would be in this situation. What are your thoughts, opinions, or solutions on this matter?