I have a history of chronic bronchitis, upper respiratory issues (you’d think that as a runner, a singer and former rugger, I’d have better lungs than that…), a family history of lung problems (including lung cancer, asthma, and emphysema), and a high sensitivity to respiratory allergens including cig smoke. So, yes, it would be a deal breaker for me, not only for my health (second hand smoke is dangerous) but also for the health of my future children (since they don’t get much of a say as to what they’re exposed to). And honestly, I would not want to kiss a guy who smoked. That last sentence sounds harsh, but it’s true.
Now, I have friends who do smoke, but they know not to smoke around me unless we’re outside and even then, not often. They also know not to expect my presence if they want to go to hookah bars. Here’s the difference, I’m not as exposed to my friends as I would be to a husband. And even if he keeps his habit outside the house, he’d still bring the chemicals inside of the house. It’s one thing if it’s an occasional thing with a good buddy (my dad doesn’t smoke but he will have a cigar with his best friend, simply because they don’t see each other much), but not if it’s an every day thing.